Posted by
Shogrensus on Sunday, April 29, 2007 8:02:07 PM
Friday, April 27th show (cont.)
Baldwin can’t talk about where he stands with Ireland now but he is writing a book about parental alienation.
He explains that his friends and his colleagues know the truth about what has happened to him. He also talks about Basinger's failed relationship with her own mother. Rosie tries to get him back on track:
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Rosie: The problem that most people had, I think, was the use of the word pig
Baldwin: Yeah I think what had happened at that point was that I had reached a point …here’s what happens. In a divorce litigation there is a thing called the right of first refusal an in that if you and I are divorced and you have primary custody and you travel to go to work, you are obligated to give me the child.
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Does this have anything to do with him calling her a pig?
Barbara interrupts briefly and then he goes on:
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BW: There are two sides to this. There are always to every story two sides go ahead
Baldwin: Right but I am not discussing that, what I am saying is that in the right of first refusal orders that I have that were given to me by a judge if she goes away she has to give me the child and we knew that she didn’t do that three consecutive times in a row…”
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Baldwin still didn’t respond to Rosie’s question but went on to explain how he had to go to court to force Basinger to turn the child over to him whenever she leaves town. As a result of that court fight, he recently had two “blissful” weeks with Ireland. Then Basinger came home and, he suggests, turned Ireland’s phone off and denied him access to her for 10 days.
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Baldwin explained: What you learn in Parental Alienation is that affection for the alienated parent or loyalty to the alienated parent is portrayed as betrayal of the custodial parent and that parent communicates in very subtle and not so subtle terms that this person is not a part of my life and I don’t want to have anything to do with him and I don’t want you to either. And they violate court orders and they force you to keep this thing going.
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Baldwin discussed his experiences with countless men who have had to walk away from their kids because they couldn’t fight their ex-wives efforts to undermine their relationships with their kids.
There can be no doubt that people in custody disputes make decisions that are often detrimental to their children. It is unfortunate that so many adults can’t find a way to mend their marriages before they put their children in this position. Once parents separate, and the gloves come off, the child begins to take the emotional beating.
No parent should be allowed to violate a court order. Family law should not reward parents who fail to comply with orders. If judges would transfer custody to the non-custodial parent when these abuses of the system occur, custodial parents would be much more likely to comply with the custody decisions.
If Baldwin is misrepresenting Basinger’s actions, you can bet her attorney will be all over him and his attorney at the next hearing. Based on the gag order he may have already overstepped the bounds laid down. If that’s true and the judge is already upset with him, that next hearing probably won’t go very well for him.
If he’s offering an accurate description of what has happened recently, it won’t be in Ireland’s best interests, either.